There are not many people who developed the ability to both give and receive through the course of their life and those who had, can experience more joy, balance and a steady level of energy throughout the day. If you are one of them then beautiful! You should be super proud of yourself!

You also must know exactly how it feels to both give and receive.

We don’t need to look too far to notice that most people are predominantly one of the following: Giver or Receiver.

We are noticing these characteristics best in our inner circle of friends, family or at the workplace.

People who mostly give by helping others are often perceived as ,,nice people’’ and let’s be honest who doesn’t like to be seen as a good person. Nobody likes to be perceived as difficult or unhelpful, however, there is an underlining issue here:

If you always give without receiving or keeping something for you, then you will be constantly running on empty. Over the time this will make you feel resentful towards people that perhaps you love and start thinking that they are taking advantage of you. This happen because the fear of being seeing as unhelpful may be bigger or more important for you as opposed to feeling good within yourself. On the same note, if you are super busy to giving, then when do you believe is time to stop for a moment and just allow yourself to receive from others.

People who mostly receive are often the ones who are used to rely a little too much, too often on others. They may struggle to take responsibility and often believe that some things are way too difficult for them to deal with, so they are happy to pass the responsibilities over to someone else if possible.

I have no intention to paint a negative picture here by all means, but I do want to distinguish the two characteristic and highlight the fact that none of them is useful .

There is however an alternative model, an in-between line which means that it is possible to both give and receive. It is advisable in fact to make use of both as often as possible.

As humans we all need support or help when we struggle, therefore, we have to learn how to ask for help. Those around us are not mind readers and if we continue to struggle but pretend everything is ,,okay’’ then they will believe everything is okay.

At the same time, others may need our support too at times. None of us knows it all! Plus, we may get stuck and need a fresh perspective on something.

If you are finding yourself struggling to find the in-between line and would like to learn how too both give and receive then feel free to reach out.

I would love to help you balance this aspect of your life!